Sad Thread again - fuck

[G.C.R]

Well, when you mentioned this, it reminded me of the most sentimental country song EVER, so I went and listened to it and then got all emo too cos my dad used to sing it to us
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UyxAfkjKOyM

I was there one night while mum was sick, and man, it was awful. I have never heard someone coughing that hard.

[jm]

Ugh, my only remaining grandparent (and, really, the one with whom I spent the most time, growing up) is in ill health.  Was recently diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver (as a non-drinker) and apparently his kidneys are "messed up" (this is as much as was communicated to me in an email).  I may be making an unscheduled trip to Ohio instead of the much happier one I was planning on making in October.

[elpollodiablo]

[mixed cats]

sorry to hear that, jm :/

[Bernard]

Really sorry to hear that, jm. My gramps just had his 90th birthday and there wasn't much to do for him that we don't do every day. My heart really goes out to you.

[G.C.R]

  I'm sorry jm.

[Anne the Man]

That sucks jm, sorry to hear it. 

[jm]

Thanks, all.  I'm pre-murking what I had typed out, because while I have more things to say about the issue, I feel weird posting about it.  Not so much because it's public, really—more because I think I'd have to explain myself, and I'd rather do that one-on-one than just blathering apostrophic.

[hannah]

I'm not sure which thread is best for this, but I'm sad, so—
My father just had surgery to tighten up the screws in the metal rod he has in his neck (that's how it was explained to me, at least). He'll have to wear a high, stiff collar for the next four or so months.

He didn't have to wear one when he'd had the metal rod put in last year, but he knew it'd be a possibility. As he is wont, he threatened to kill himself if indeed he had to wear such a collar. Who knows how real this threat is. I do know that he tells me that he's thinking of killing himself in order to coerce me into crying over him. And he's always successful.

That was a year ago. A year later, he does have to wear the collar after all.

And my mom told him that he can come live with her. She will feed him and make sure he doesn't fire his nurses. And make sure he doesn't kill himself.

On top of this, well, I was planning on coming to NYC next week, which means staying with my mom. And now my dad's going to be there. And I wish she hadn't chosen my semi-estranged, mentally ill, emotionally abusive father over me, even though I'm an adult and should realize by now the world does not revolve around me.

[Ignatius]

That's rough as hell, hannah. Maybe you could stay with a friend or relative instead of at your mom's place? I know that the comfort of home (and moms) is usually a big part of the appeal of that sort of trip, but it's not the only part. Either way, I hope you feel better in spite of all that.

[milesofsparks]

hannah, you can totally stay with me if you don't mind a messy house, a moody temporary housemate, and two attack kittens.  oh, and you will have to eat a lot of ice cream.

[hannah]

Thanks, Iggy and mos... and mos, that's a really kind offer, one I hope I won't have to take you up on. Once things have settled a bit in my head, I'll call my mom back. I'm sure things will be figured out.

It hasn't helped any that last week my brother sent me some of my dad's fiction from the seventies—"fiction," actually—in which he details at least one extramarital affair.

[Anne the Man]

That sucks Hannah. If we lived in the same hemisphere I would take you out for gelato and funtimes. Take care.

[hannah]

Stuff is better now, sort of. I still would some funtimes, Anne.

[morgan]

My dad passed away last night. It's been a very rough couple of weeks.

[Nick Ink]

  I'm really sorry to hear that, morgan. I lost my dad 4 years ago, and I think about him every day. I hope you have people around. 

[Greg Nog]

Oh, dang.  Sorry to hear that.

[Ignatius]

I'm sorry, morgan.

[hannah]

Morgan, I'm so sorry.

[davy]

 

[Bernard]

Oh honey, so much love to you. 

[morgan]

Thanks, everyone. I am trying to spend a lot of time with my mom, and my sister flew in from South Korea very early thismorning. It's just really hard right now -- I was always really close to him, and I wouldn't be who I am today without him. He brought me to the neighbourhood library every week when I was a kid. I'd stack the books up so high that they covered my face as I held them on the way out to the car. He taught me how to be exactly who I am, and always supported me no matter what. Now I'm going to school for library science! I couldn't have asked for a better father.

[alex]

I'm so sorry, morgan. I'm lucky in that I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling right now, but wishing you all the best.

[clare]

I'm sorry to hear that Morgan. :-(

miss him well.

[Good Intentions]

I'm sorry to hear that, Morgan. I'm hoping for all the best for you in the time to come.