SUB+AUX 'BE'+'always'+~ing VERB! (1st Wrld Annoyances)

[fishjim]

Even if that's not my objective, it's almost always the automatic thing that happens. I wouldn't say it's super comfortable, but nothing else is as possible as sleep. Same thing with buses. In transport, I am as a babe in a mother's arms

I knew we had more in common than movie theaters, Iggy. I'm an all-terrain sleeper, too.

[Ignatius]

Having a daughter for this short time has already opened my eyes a bit wider re: our culture's disgusting gender bias. Just been noticing that in all of the literature on baby care that the only pronouns used are male ones. When D was pregnant and people would ask us boy or girl, we'd say "A girl! We both wanted a girl." And almost invariably, our interlocutor would go, "Really?" Yes fucking really what the fuck is your problem.

If you like girls so much why don't you marry one?

While it's not as troubling as your experience, I'm pretty amazed that my stepmom continues to refer to the dog as a "he," though Breifne's been a lady dog for the full six years she's been alive.

[fishjim]

I know exactly what you mean, Nick. K and I both wanted girls, and we got 'em, but I feel guilty every time I admit that.

[Greg Nog]

A couple I know was reallllly hoping to have a girl, and ended up having a son instead; they called up fenster to be like, "NOOOOOO WE DON'T WANT A SON HE'S GOING TO BE AWFUL" once they found out.

But!  They adapted pretty quickly, and the boy is fucking splendid!

[davy]

We both wanted girls too. Both times. You're not supposed to think it, are you, but I was terrified by the idea of having sons.

I'll admit to feeling just the opposite -- not that I didn't want a girl, but that the prospect of raising one was somehow more intimidating.

[jebreject]

While it's not as troubling as your experience, I'm pretty amazed that my stepmom continues to refer to the dog as a "he," though Breifne's been a lady dog for the full six years she's been alive.

Um, all dogs are boys and all cats are girls. Duh.

[peacocks]

also girls only use spoons. boys use forks and knives. <<<<<<<<real thing I thought as a babygirlchild

[davy]

I used to think people cycled through various races as they got older.

[peacocks]

that would be awesome.

[mixed cats]

While it's not as troubling as your experience, I'm pretty amazed that my stepmom continues to refer to the dog as a "he," though Breifne's been a lady dog for the full six years she's been alive.

Um, all dogs are boys and all cats are girls. Duh.

My grandmother still calls our cats "she" because she really believes that. She is also losing it, but she thought that before.

pollo, once you start noticing the pervasiveness of maleness being the universal and femaleness (or anything else) being the other, it's very hard to block it out and it may drive you slowly insane

[Greg Nog]

I used to think people cycled through various races as they got older.

Holy shit what scientist do we have to bribe to make this happen

Also, davy: was there the same order in all cases?  Like, all black people are 45, but then they turn white at 60?  Or could you be born as any of them?

[peacocks]

At first I thought of it as a marble ice cream deal, or kaleidascope effect. Completely random and ever changing, every year or 5 years or 6 months.

[mountmccabe]

I have to be absolutely exhausted to fall asleep for long on an airplane; I have slept more than half an hour total maybe twice.

I slept on neither the 9 hour flight to London nor the overnight 5-hour ferry from Liverpool to Dublin where it was just my friends and I in the seated area.

I also slept on neither the 16-hour bus ride from Tucson to Mazatlan nor the one back.

[davy]

I used to think people cycled through various races as they got older.

Holy shit what scientist do we have to bribe to make this happen

Also, davy: was there the same order in all cases?  Like, all black people are 45, but then they turn white at 60?  Or could you be born as any of them?

The latter. You could be born white, but you'd be a black adult. Latinos and Asians were in the middle somewhere? It was all about shading, I guess.

Maybe the reason I'm not racist--despite growing up in central Georgia--is that I really believed I'd be a black man someday.

[G.C.R]

My mum really wanted girls, and we always knew she'd have no problem if we were gay or anything, but recently, talking about a trans friend, Anne and I realised she'd probably be really, really upset if either of us were trans. It'd make her so sad if we weren't girls.

[G.C.R]

Ugh, I had one of those awful dinners with two women I'm friends with last night, where we went to one of those awesome sushi train places. I can easily eat six of those tiny plates at a sitting, and then I'm full but not feeling like I've overeaten. But man! These two slowly and carefully ate two, maybe three plates and that was it. I ate four and felt like a total pig, with my huge stack of plates next to their tiny ones, but I still had had barely enough to eat. It made me realise that this is why I hardly ever eat with female friends.
I wanna be all not caring about it and eating what I damn well please, but its so hard when almost all the women I know either are slender and perfect, or identify strongly as either a)having an eating disorder or b)being a Fat Person. I'm not any of those things! But I feel like people are gonna judge me as one of those things, and I'm not comfortable with that. Why does everything about food have to be so fucking difficult all the time?

[clare]

Oh wow, that's hard Grace. I've got nothing. My brain and food are still in an uneasy truce. I still over-eat, but I stuff myself with salad or steamed vegetables these days so I'm less likely to regret it the next day, or even in a few hours...

Back to the other thing...I actively wanted the big boy to be a boy. Something about the gender stuff you lot have all talked about meant I didn't much like being a girl when I was young, boys obviously have more fun. Also the really pervasive stuff these days about girls being forced to be princesses/little hookers really turned me off. I kind of wanted E to be a girl - it's hard to think about getting older, or being a grandmother with no daughters...but yeah, having sons means I get to play boy-games, or contradict their gender role stuff (though E has no dolls, he has stuffed toys, and his childcare centre has a 'home corner' which all the kids love to play in)

[Greg Nog]

Oh man, I love those sushi conveyor belt places.  I can pile up a stack of them the size of my damn torso.

This is probably not so helpful in re advice or sympathy for weight loss, other than to say that I generally do not eat much sushi because it will lead to me eating all the sushi

[jm]

Oh man, I love those sushi conveyor belt places.  I can pile up a stack of them the size of my damn torso.

but this is true of any kind of food, whether it comes on a plate or not, no?

[Greg Nog]

This is true, but it's the stacking of empty plates at the conveyor-belt sushi restaurants that really brings home how much I'm likely to eat.  I went to one once where each of the plates was color-coded according to price, but if you ordered the all-you-can-eat option, you could just grab whatever.  I believe the price for that was like 40 bucks, so I went for it.

At the end of the meal, I tallied up my plates, and found I had eaten 95 dollars worth of sushi.

DEAL ACHIEVED

[jm]

This is true, but it's the stacking of empty plates at the conveyor-belt sushi restaurants that really brings home how much I'm likely to eat.  I went to one once where each of the plates was color-coded according to price, but if you ordered the all-you-can-eat option, you could just grab whatever.  I believe the price for that was like 40 bucks, so I went for it.

At the end of the meal, I tallied up my plates, and found I had eaten 95 dollars worth of sushi.

DEAL ACHIEVED

Oh yeah $40 worth of sushi would end up inside me pretty fast.

[Babar]

pollo, once you start noticing the pervasiveness of maleness being the universal and femaleness (or anything else) being the other, it's very hard to block it out and it may drive you slowly insane

Even the English language does this. You have Man, then you have the other type called WoMan. Which is the alternative Wo type of Man.

I think it should be Man and Wan instead.

[fishjim]

I prefer to think Woman came first, for Womb.

Man came next, and since there was half a chromosome missing, the ruling female commune voted to drop a few letters. Originally, Man had only 3/5 of a vote, too, but that changed during Masculinism.

[Greg Nog]

It would be pretty bitchin' if we could revert to Woman and Wereman to differentiate between female and male.

[Thermofusion]

pollo, once you start noticing the pervasiveness of maleness being the universal and femaleness (or anything else) being the other, it's very hard to block it out and it may drive you slowly insane

Even the English language does this. You have Man, then you have the other type called WoMan. Which is the alternative Wo type of Man.

I think it should be Man and Wan instead.

Thank you Andy Rooney